20 January 2013

Facebook auto-unfriend?

From time to time, I notice that someone on Facebook has unfriended one or other of my boy and girl profiles. Sometimes it is clearly someone who has either taken offence at a difference of opinion and sometimes it is someone I barely knew, who has obviously decided to do a clean-out and remove people that they barely know. I've done the latter a fair few times over the years, and the former on a very small number of occasions.

Other times, though, they are people who I know well enough to be genuinely surprised that they have unfriended me. Because I'm not good at dealing with confrontation, most of the time I simply let it slide but it still leaves me feeling that somehow I've done something that they've been offended by, but I don't know what or why. I really don't like that feeling!

It's reached the point where I genuinely wonder if there is a glitch in Facebook that causes people to be unfriended at random. Particularly when a married couple somehow ceased to be friends with each other and are both adamant that they didn't do it!

Clearly I'm not the only one who this has happened to. A quick web search turns up numerous references to an unfriending glitch, such as this one on Yahoo Answers.

If this really is a facebook glitch, I'm left with another disturbing thought ~ that the person who I am no longer friends with thinks that I unfriended them!

PS If you're wondering about the Friend Tracker image at the top right, it's one of the features of Social Fixer, a handy browser extension that allows you to customise Facebook to some extent.

16 comments:

  1. Facebook sure does act weird sometimes.

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  2. I don't have a FB account because I really don't care about cyber-friends. All my "friends" are real (and few!) but in my real world.

    Good luck to you, Alice.

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    1. Judgmental, arent we? friends come in all forms, some people just have the ability to make friends in multiple ways and in multiple places. try being "nice". maybe that might help your social situation. Good luck Billie :)

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  3. I'm quite sure that facebook does have some unfriending glitch. Once I visited an acquaintance's page and found out we are no longer friends, since we didn't really know each other so well so I just let it be. But some time later I visited his page for a 2nd time & we were again friends, but neither I nor he had sent a second friend request.

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    1. This very thing just happened to me.

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  4. I have one friend that gets unfriended from my facebook every three days or so. It's really getting quite irritating.

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  5. Same has happened to me also. For sure it is Facebook or some malicious code on Facebook severs doing the rounds Facebook unfriend'd my girlfriend and 2 work mates worse is how do you know who has been removed from your friends if they don't mention it to you.

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  6. How I know if someone unfriends me is that social fixer (link above) tells me. Unfortunately it doesn't work on the Android version of Firefox.

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  7. U gotta be kidding me, i thought i was the only one goign through this. anyone found a solution yet?

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  8. The link that you show in your screen shot says "account inactive", which means that person disabled their account. You would be friends again if they re-enabled their account.

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    1. That particular one was for a disabled account, but I've had plenty of others where the accounts have not been disabled, and I've opened their profile in another tab and it's shown that I'm no longer friends with them.

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  9. I am also facing the same problem from last many months. It's very irritating. Unknowingly this happens and get to know after long time that a person is not there in our friend list.
    Wat is the solution on this?

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    1. Aside from using Social Fixer to find out when people unfriend you, then contacting them to ask whether they have done it deliberately or whether it's the Facebook glitch that has done it, I really don't know!

      Of course, as I said above, because I'm not good at dealing with confrontation, most of the time I won't contact the person to ask if they did it on purpose! Maybe I just need to have a thicker skin...

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  10. And here is the same thing happening to me. Few hours ago it was ok and now 1 friend is missing from the list. And she didn't unfriend me because we checked each others activity logs and nothing indicates why this happening. I'll take a look in the next days maybe we will be friends again.
    For a serious company like Facebook this is BIG BUG. If I get this kind of inconsistency on my servers I will get fired or transferred to Siberia or worse :p
    AND Facebook don't ignore this, because bugs like this cost your business.

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  11. I have the same predicament. It is weird. I managed to tag them. I was just with them a day before. I was with them at her daughter's birthday. She invited me. I do not understand it.

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  12. I've noticed this problem to and its true u don't like to ask.. U just wonder if u upset them... But I had one that appeared unfriended.. Any a bit later they sent a another request this gave me to not add straight way and ask why they unfriended us and they said they didn't and thought o had unfriended them... I have a feeling another one that went thinks I did it to them

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