I visited one of my wife's aunts for a while today. She needed a hand with a computer problem and changing a light bulb in her flat.
While I was sorting out her computer problem for her, I told her outright that I am a crossdresser. Not only was she not the slightest bit surprised, but she confirmed my suspicion that most if not all of my wife's relatives know but are choosing to pretend not to know. I believe that the term used in the military is plausible deniability. By not admitting that they know, it remains plausible that they don't know.
That's actually a big relief to me. They know and pretend not to, and that's their choice. The really good thing is that they continue to accept me in my male role. I haven't been rejected outright. I'm still trying to get my head around the larger implications of this, but it's definitely a relief.
Well, that's good because some people would cut off communication upon learning about something like crossdressing. At least you get to feel like yourself and that you're not hiding anything from anyone. Great to hear :)
ReplyDeleteWow. What a revelation. It's good to know that they all know and are okay with it. Maybe they just don't know how to talk to you about it? Or are trying to be polite and wait to see if you bring it up first?
ReplyDeleteApparently I spoke too soon. One of my wife's relatives has taken offence at some of the things I've said in this blog, saying that I was mocking her family. I'm upset about that because I don't believe that I've mocked them. I'm upset that she's offended but I'm also upset that she hasn't spoken to me about it. I've only been told 2nd hand.
ReplyDeleteI've read every post and haven't read anything that came across as you mocking your family. Are you going to speak to her about it?
ReplyDeleteApparently she was upset with my wife about something unrelated and made the comments about me at the end of a message that was a dummy spit about the other stuff.
ReplyDeleteHer comments look a lot like one of the normal reactions to finding out about a crossdresser. If she ever talks to me again, I'll try to help her to understand.
So reactions like that are common? Not to be rude, but is a negative reaction more likely to come from older people?
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